What Season of Parenting Are You In?

We often reference "seasons" as a way to describe the natural rhythm of our life experiences. It is a common anaolgy we like to use just like the weather. Along with our children, we all naturally go through changes and continuous growth. As our kids change and develop, our parenting style has to adjust as well. They need us differently throughout the different stages. How can we best rise to the occasion?

Okay before we dive in, how precious are these pictures of my sister, Ashley and her beautiful children? It seems like only yesterday, her and I (and our sister, Janine) were playing outside, ruling the neighborhood. Now our kids are running the show. Or so they think. Well they kinda do. Listen, we're all about empowerment around here. I do have to say, it is such a beautiful thing watching my sisters as mothers. I'm so proud and inspired by them in so many ways. I love a good cousin crew and watching our tribe grow over the years has been an amazing journey.

PHOTO BY @MALLORYRAMIREZPHOTOS - COURTESY OF @ASHHHMADISON

So how does a parent figure out the challenge of having an effective roadmap to successfully navigate parenthood? There are several models out there on parenting but whether you are in the discipline, training, coaching or friendship years, it is super important to adjust our parenting approaches as they transition from one stage to the next.

"I always make sure I give quality one-on-one time to each of my kids. It's my favorite way to keep both of their love buckets full" -Ashley

As a mom to an adult child, a preteen and currently expecting our third child, I will state the one big thing that has worked for me over the years. Give your kids a hug. A good, meaningful hug. It's so simple but I am so serious. In life, did you ever experience a hard time and all you wanted was a comforting hug and to know everything will be okay? The same goes for our kids. A hug can instantly melt away a hard day and help you reset to move forward. It's like swaddling a baby. Even if they now tower over you and have a deep voice, you better hug that baby!

PHOTO BY @MALLORYRAMIREZPHOTOS - COURTESY OF @ASHHHMADISON

Aside from nurturing your child, be sure to also support your child's sense of security through consistent positive reinforcement, setting clear boundries (yes Mama, put your foot down...that goes for you mushy Dads too!) and clear, open communication. Pay attention to their individual needs and respond accordingly. All children are different and don't you dare compare them to each other. They are blessed with their own set of gifts. Meet your child where they are at. Everyone wants to be heard and understood at the end of the day.

"We have teens and toddlers and it is important to simply meet your children at their maturity level" -Janine

Listen, I get it. Parenting is the hardest gig around. You start the gig off sleep-deprived from the gate. Then, you have to figure it all out along the way and set the best example all while trying to navigate your own life. Strive for balance. Not perfection. Trust me, every parent has had a meltdown or two. Give yourself grace. We are all learning and your job is to simply put your best foot forward.

No matter what season of parenting you are in, enjoy the now. When they are younger, we can't wait until they are older and more independent. In my case, when they are older and want to move to New York City, then we wish we could rewind time to when we were baby proofing our homes. Their lives are so important. Be there the best you can for them. Do your best and then let them soar!

Okay great bye!